In my current coaching and healing practice and my former role as an ICU nurse, and in my personal relationships, I have known so many for whom body weight and body image is a huge, heartbreaking issue. For some it’s lifelong struggle, a source of severe illness, chronic disease, endless pain and suffering, even death — whether it be from overeating, anorexia, bulimia; or the latest manifestation of disordered eating, orthorexia, which is extreme dietary restriction, in order to achieve extreme health, but ending up as malnourishment.
For weight loss, I don’t ever advocate “dieting” as it is often punishing, depriving, and doesn’t even touch the source of the matter. Diet, schmiet! The only people benefiting from diets and “weight loss” solutions are corporations selling false hope and making huge profits. The person that is suffering from weight issues is actually starving in many ways. What is needed for healing is true nourishment on every level of being — the physical, emotional and energetic.
Weight is the physical manifestation of so much more than caloric intake. We feed on empty calories, judgments, fears, and feelings of shame, guilt, loneliness and worthlessness.
Achieving a healthy body weight is a transformational journey reaching far beyond addressing physical aspects alone.
The destination is authenticity.
All along the path, there will be places to lay the burdens down…
Shed the old stories.
Some of them are quite validating, and build the ego, making us feel worthy; some of them make us feel ashamed, inferior, unworthy. Our stories begin to define us, yet they are, in the end, just stories.
Drop the beliefs that no longer serve you or the greater good.
Whenever unpleasant emotions arise, there’s an opportunity to look at what belief may be lurking underneath the discomfort, pain or suffering. Begin to look at the origins by asking the right questions. Here’s a good one for starters: Is the world a friendly, or hostile place?
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
― Albert Einstein
Lay down the basket of worry.
From an energetic perspective, what we think about attracts like energies. Worry, then, is literally a prayer for the manifestation for whatever we are afraid of to actually happen!
Let go of resentment.
Resentment is toxic…it is the poison we take, hoping that the offensive “other” dies.
It is a recipe for failure, and is the great separator: it is a place of isolation, a very lonely place to be. Who wants to be with someone who tries to be perfect or wants you to think they are?
An interesting practice is to merely observe how often and in what ways judgment arises. For example, at the grocery store, the mind might say: “He’s so handsome…she’s so fat…those kids are brats…these lines are ridiculously long…that checker is rude…I can’t believe she’s buying that with food stamps…look at all that candy, cigarettes, alcohol…that old lady is so slow…I wishI had her body…she’s prettier than I am…
You get the picture. We can be doing this all day long, without any conscious awareness. It feeds us with heaviness, and triggers the unhealed parts of ourselves to act in ways that sabotage our happiness, and eat away our soul.
Thank them, these very human experiences…and kiss them all goodbye.
With gratitude for the learning, grace begins to flow in. Our experiences inform us, yet they not who we are. We begin to be compassionate, first with ourselves, then with others, and ultimately with the world. We become whole, our minds and bodies transform, joy floods in.